Just when you thought you’ve known what’s best for your parents and beloved elderlies, think again. Typically, human wants and needs become extensively diverse with the passing of every stage in life, but it is the reverse that is notably true to the heart of the elderlies. Most often than not, opinions of “so-called” experience caregivers are placed above the voice of the ultimate recipient, which has entirely defeated the purpose of why an arrangement was initiated in the first place.
Here are some pointers on what aging parents want from their children and how we could cater to their needs without compromising on both sides.
1. Staying at Home
The initiative to move to a new environment and settle down requires far greater efforts from the elderlies as compared to the younger generations. It is very challenging for them to get used to big changes like leaving their friends, housing area and familiar atmosphere they have grown used to.
If your aging parents are relatively mobile, an all-in-one homecare-based service can cater for your parents need and meet your expectations in a way that offers peace of mind for you and your parents. Should a need to relocate to another town arises, consider moving into an area that feels very much like home. One that is surrounded by lovely communities alike with an abundance of recreational activities, facilities and feels safe for them to explore around. Plan early to allocate more time for communication and in helping them to get used to the new environment before the actual move.
When it comes to being supportive and accommodative, aging seniors are the most genuine cheerleaders and well wishers we’d ever find. While they look forward to family gathering and outing on the weekends, aging seniors acknowledge that companionship of a pet during the weekdays is one of the comforts they truly appreciate. Pets encourage them to stay as healthy and mobile as possible.
Pets do remarkable wonder in alleviating loneliness, depression, stimulating mental activities and happy hormones as well as provide comfort during the events of uncertainties. Alternatively, consider adopting adopting a pet from a foundation and offering a pet a new forever home.
3. Personal Freedom
Most aging seniors expressed their concern that comes with family visits, they’re not sure if it’s purely a visit or a check up with a list of assessment. Despite feeling appreciative over their children’s concern, there is a fine line where over-protectiveness shades into annoyance rather than the feeling of being loved. Among the fear that comes with aging, is the feeling of no longer being in control.
Respect senior’s desire for independence and provide greater care flexibility rather than imposing stringent schedules, rules and restrictions on movement. For relatively mobile parents, we could start by offering help only as when needed. Understand why parents sometimes insist, resist or persist on their means or viewpoints and learn to cooperate by taking slow steps to.
Plant an Idea, Step Back, Be Patient and Bring It Up Later.
4. Remain Connected
A world 10 years ago, where technological connectivity rotates mostly around the desktop and SMSes, was utterly traditional in comparison to the smart world that we are in now. And don’t even get us started on Artificial Intelligence, GenY or GenZ. Oh my, what’s going on with the world nowadays? Technological and societal change is advancing so rapidly and it is affecting the quality and depth of day-to-day conversations with the seniors. With greater restrictions on agility, visual and hearing, seniors often get lost during a much-anticipated conversation with family.
Embark on enthusiastic conversation starters like sharing on what’s happenning in the world or yourself in the form of videos or photos. By assisting them with better vision and hearing aids (yes, that includes speaking louder and making fonts larger), they would feel encouraged on what they could do on their own- one of the best way to help them remain connected, active and communicative. Plus, you might be amazed at the worldly wisdom they have in store for you.
5. Making Things Easier for Them
Despite slipping memories and restricted moments, seniors are equipped with incredibly remarkable spirit and creativity to help them work their way through daily tasks independently. What are the things that we could do to assist them in other ways they couldn’t?
Most accidents involving elderlies happen at the washroom where there are no adequate hand support and slippery tiles. Hence, modifying home with household aids according to aging parent’s changing needs, to help them adapt better to the body changes and ensure their safety at all times. A helpful and kind neighbor is exceptionally handy and a great way to be part of the community. Senior-friendly portable technological devices now offer fantastic ways for family to stay in contact wherever they are.
Regardless whether your aging parents are staying with you, retired, or in an assisted living community, the greatest gift a caregiver could provide is to help them feel independent and empowered. What are the other things that we could do for them? Let us know in comments below.